mother - daughter

I’m not sure about some people, but most daughters are closed to their fathers more than the mothers. No? But as fo me, i’m closed to my mum more. And actually barely speaks to my late father. I used to stay under my mum’s and hide so that nobody can see me-When i was small obviously. But once i grew up, i learned how to be independent especially since i came here. I had to do everything by myself.

We, mother daughter used to share secrets and talk to each other a lot. Still do but less now. Our relationship got distanced because of other people’s bad mouth, that made either i did not trust my mother, or my mother did not trust me. Things got better when we started to clear things out, but the relationship was not like before. I argue a lot with my mum, because that’s how she was brought up. So yeah, sometimes i just had to argue her.


Last night, something triggered me. I didn’t know who to speak to about how i feel. I used to let out my feelings to my god-parents-They were good parents, i still love them till today even we’re not in-touch much no, due to some misunderstanding. I just wanted to hear from the older people point of view, of my problem.

First, she told me about her friends. Which ones are good and true and which are not. Even those who are not her friends, are not even nice to her. My mum maybe aggresive, but she is good in heart. So, she told me the stories, to make me see the real picture of life. Where,don’t care at what age orwhat decade, friends are always like that. You can’t trust anyone, and there’s only few people you can trust. Sometimes no one.

Surprisingly, looking at her aggresiveness, she told me, attacking or confronting the person is not the best solution, because no matter what, they would always be the same. Furthermore, keeping hatred is also not a good solution. You would only attack them when they really attack you in public for instance, ok, maybe you can try to face them and stand for your rights, but besides that, you can’t do anything about it. Why? As we all know, we can’t control what come out from other people’s mouth. You just have to accept it, or take the critics. Maybe they critic you because you are really like that? Or not, they’re just jealous of you? Which is which?

But there’s nothing you can do, no? keep being strong and think about yourself. Focus on what you want for your life. And the MOST important thing is, ALWAYS remember ALLAH SWT is great! Don’t stop praying and ask for forgiveness. If you’re right, HE would help you in anysingle way. insyaAllah.

After i had the conversation with my mum, i felt much better now. I felt like something big that i was holding, was gone!


Thanks Mum.